#BlackLivesMatter #YesNiggaAllBlackLives: Black Men & Their Obsession With Mimicking Oppression
Hey Black men,
We need to do better. Seriously, this isn't a fuckin' game. This profanity laced tirade doubling as a blog post is about our own issues with privilege & oppression as we fight against the very same things. I have a question for Black men. What the fuck is our problem?
Don't know what I'm referring to yet? No? Well it's the treatment of Black women & the Black LBGTQ community, especially within the Black Lives Matter movement. The marginalization, the exclusion, the lack of support. Mind you Black women were there on day one, Black people of the LBGTQ community were there on day one. This is just as much their movement as it is ours & every time we do not act accordingly we dishonor the battle call, that Black lives, although not treated as such, are to be valued, nurtured & support like those of the dominant society. All this misogyny, homophobia & transphobia shit has to stop. It's Black LIVES Matter nigga, not just yours & the ones you find acceptable based on White Cis Male Supremacy. That means Black women's lives matter. That means Black LBGTQ lives matter. Yes nigga ALL #BlackLivesMatter. I get it, this is attributable to social conditioning but so is anti-Blackness & you managed to shake that shit just fuckin' fine bruh. Cut the shit. You can get rid of this social conditioning. Read some books, actually LISTEN to the people you're helping oppress, I mean fuck Google will teach you all you need to know if you're really interested. Within this movement you have options, you have freedom, you have the comfort of those who value you so what the fuck is wrong with returning the favor just because it's the right thing to do?
So what brought me to this tirade? Well for one it was WELL overdue because we've been doing this shit for too long but the straw(s) that broke the camel's back for me were two things that happened this past weekend. The first was something that happened in the St. Louis area. Activist & Blogger Angel Carter so eloquently put it like this,
"Sunday, April 26th there was a rally held in downtown Saint Louis to amplify the names of black women who have been killed and/or raped by police officers. The desire to incorporate black women into the conversation about police brutality, is not an act of division, it’s an act of inclusion. This was the first rally held to centralize black women here in Saint Louis. It has been long overdue. In comparison to past events, the turn out was typical. White allies were in attendance, kids, signs, banners, blow horns, chants, cops, etc. Every thing was as it always is, minus one thing…. There were only six black men present. I wish I was exaggerating this number, but someone even walked around and counted to be sure. Six black men supporting black women. Even the police exceeded the amount of black men, there were approximately eight of them [policemen] standing behind us."
You can read the rest of Angel's post here.
The second thing was a Facebook post from another woman instrumental in the #BlackLivesMatter movement & it's inception in Ferguson, MO.
Netta hit the nail on the head. "If straight Black men want everyone else to go home then who would be left?" What in the fuck is this about? The reality is that we need them & they need us. Y'all know that for every 100 Black women there are 83 Black males not dead or in jail right? That doesn't even factor in any men who are a part of the LBGTQ community. Y'all so bad that you can take out a power structure that outnumbers us damn near 10 to 1? Niggas get it together. Y'all taking this magical negro shit entirely too seriously. I'm trying to keep it real but y'all can't even keep it realistic with this bullshit notion. Even Barry O wants to know:
Black cis gendered men...
Whatever the fuck you identify as...
What the in the flying fuck are we doing? These are women who stood in the face of violence to proudly shout that Black lives matter when one of us is killed & we can't return the fuckin' favor? We gotta call them bitches? I'm ashamed & confused. Why? Because how you ever expect to end White Supremacy without ending Cis Male Supremacy is beyond me & in bailing on a group that so fervently backs you, by this bullshit standard we men are supposed to abide by, you're a bigger "bitch" than any woman could aspire to be. I may not be the hardest nigga from the hood but I'm from the hood no less. Last I checked being so insecure in who you are that you can't fight for those who fight with & for you is kinda a "bitch move" in every hood I know of. You wanna show off your "manhood"? You wanna exercise your privilege? Then at least do it in defense of those who defend you. Otherwise have several seats & go play musical chairs with them.
At least once a week I contemplate asking the women & those in the LBGTQ community to stop fighting for fools but I know they can't. Their lives & the lives of their loved ones depend on them not stopping. I just wish that somehow their work didn't help the Black men who wish to oppress them in the name of a system that spits in in all of our faces. We Black Cis men foolishly cling to a system that sets violent standard for masculinity & then uses uses that standard against us.
We have to do better Black Cis gendered men, this shit won't cut it.
Why? Because #BlackLivesMatter